It has been a little while since I’ve written due to a death in the family. I’m excited to be back writing again. I am grateful to have been present for that incredibly unique part their journey and final transition. I am very happy that I was able to be there. It has also been essential for me to take this time for myself.
I wanted to write about it now and here so that you witness me walking my talk. I share my life experiences with you as an example of both vulnerability and strength. I realize that my grief is an on-going process. I’m creating a new normal for myself since the death of my loved one. I continue to marvel at the impact they had on my life and how they will go on influencing me.
Above all, they would expect me to write about this new aspect of my life. It is just part of who I am that I would put this part of my story into words on the page. I am a writer. That’s my identity. That’s how they introduce me…how they introduced me to everyone…Mary’s the writer. That’s what writers do. That’s how I deal. That’s how I cope. That’s how I find joy.
“If life is a bowl of cherries,” as one of my favorite humorists and philosophers Erma Bombeck shares, “what am I doing in the pits?”
Right now, a part of my life feels like the pits. Figuring out how to live life going forward without my loved one. The beautiful thing is that they had a long life filled with lots of life experiences that were “cherry!” True, some life experiences that would be considered pits. But they were weathered, and my loved one persevered. That’s where I learned to keep on keeping on.
We all can keep on keeping on. Take the wisdom of each particular life experience and grow from it. Allow yourself time and grace to heal. Every one of our life experiences is meant to teach us something and mold us into who we are meant to be.
Recognize the synchronicity of the events…nothing happens out of the blue and for no apparent reason. Everything has significance.
Yes, there are pits in life. There are also lots of cherries. Enjoy the cherries!
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