Powerful combo: What you know and Who you know

Mary E. Knippel sharing on Rebecca Hall Gruyter’s Success Panel as part of the 2017 Women’s Empowerment Series.

We’ve all heard that it’s often not what you know but who you know. Of course, we know how important it is to get out there and spread the word about our message. We are among the lucky ones if we are fortunate enough to have friends who would help us prepare for an event, coach us on content and delivery, and then be our support system to strategize about next steps.

I’m sending a huge THANK YOU and lots of love to my friend, cheerleader and my Mentor, Rebecca Hall Gruyter. 

Your success is determined by what you know AND who you know. My friendly advice is to be confident in not only what you know…to also recognize that you are not in this alone…to acknowledge the tremendous impact of those who support you in sharing your clear, concise and compelling message with the world.

Rebecca and I have known each other for almost a decade now and I’ve been a witness to her beautiful journey. We are both committed to empowering women to be visible, vibrant and successful on this challenging roller coaster ride we call life. Today she is an international best-selling author, compiler of the International Best Selling multi-author book Come Out of Hiding and SHINE, Network Director for VoiceAmerica’s Women’s Channel (both Radio & TV), as well as a sought after speaker, visibility expert, and CEO of RHG Media Productions. It hasn’t always been that way. She knew she wanted to make a difference in the world, but wasn’t sure how she could do that while hiding in plain sight. The Women’s Empowerment Series concept was birthed at a retreat we were both attending where we both expressed our longing to live our purpose. I’ve benefited over and over from the series as a speaker on the stage and as a participant in the room. As a direct result of my relationship with Rebecca, I have opened myself up to new opportunities and had some incredible experiences. All because Rebecca nudged me to consider how I could have a bigger impact. It’s because of that purposeful nudging that I can say I am also an International Best-Selling author as one of the co-authors of the Come Out of Hiding and SHINE series. (Click here to get your copy.) And we’ll soon be releasing the second in this series entitled Bloom Where You Are Planted and SHINE!

Do you have someone who lifts you up?

How do you lift up others?

Tell someone that they shine today.

You’ll be glad you did.

Photo Credit:  Dot Claire.

The journey to Celebration…

My message for you today is about not quitting five-minutes before you realize your dream! I filled out the application to speak at Polka Dot Powerhouse Network Celebration months ago. It would be the biggest stage I’ve been on to date. I really wanted this. And I got the e-mail that I’m IN! Yippee!

I’d been preparing for the stage my whole life. When I was 8-years-old I used to stand on a beautiful stage and wow my audiences. Every ear eagerly longed to hear what I was going to say next. Of course, my stage was a giant boulder at the edge of a grove of trees and I was facing a field full of corn ready to be harvested. I just knew that I was going to be interviewed some day and I would be prepared, even if no one else in my world thought it would ever happen to me.

What is it that you are longing to do? Start a blog? Publish a book? Share your message on stage? Start today to realize your dreams.

[Speaker tip] Butterfly choreography…

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Whether it’s talking in front of a crowd or introducing myself at a networking event, I am well aware of the nervous flutters in the pit of my stomach. So, I’ve decided to put those butterflies to use! I’m working hard on teaching my butterflies the correct choreography for my stage time! Talking about how your story…your message. Just being able to open your mouth and speak up is terrifying..then you have to take into account all that is going on with the rest of your body!

What about you? What happens when you decide to share your story…your message.  Are you able to open your mouth and speak up? It doesn’t have to be terrifying.

My secret weapon is the way I channel that nervous energy and focus on YOU!

All the butterflies are flying towards you! As much as I know what I want to tell you, I’m that much more focused on what I will hear from you…my intention is to show up and listen much more than talk.

A very wise person once told me that we have been designed with two ears and one mouth for a specific purpose…to listen twice as intently as we talk. Whether or not I’ll be seeing you at an event coming up, we encounter each other at other networking events, or I bump into you at the grocery story, mail box, or at church…my philosophy is the same…to listen twice as much as I speak. I am passionate about serving those who want to speak up and need a guide/mentor/muse to help them dive deep into the story ready to be told.

The pen’s in your hand to discover your story worth writing!

You matter…Your story matters…and You are the only one who can tell your story from the inside out. 

[Free Training] It’s What you know and Who you know

Mary-E.-Knippel-Teresa-LeYung-Ryan-teach-Be-Your-Own-Editor-at-SFWC-photo-by-Margie-Yee-WebbWe’ve all heard that it’s often not what you know but who you know. Of course, we know how important it is to get out there and spread the word about our message. We are among the lucky ones if we are fortunate enough to have friends who would help us prepare for an event, coach us on content and delivery, and then be our support “team” on the day of the event!

I’m sending a huge THANK YOU and lots of love to my friend, head cheerleader and my Mentor, Writing Coach Teresa LeYung Ryan.

On more than one occasion Teresa has been there when I’ve been the featured speaker or facilitated a workshop. We have co-presented numerous times at the San Francisco Writers Conference. I had the opportunity to present Create Your Success Story to a fabulous group in San Francisco. This was a speaking opportunity as well as a mini-workshop with writing, collage, and conversation resulting in lots of creativity. When folks were asked to introduce themselves, Teresa was the first one to stand up and say she was there because of today’s fabulous speaker!  

Your success is determined by what you know AND who you know. My friendly advice is to be confident in not only what you know…to also recognize that you are not in this alone…to acknowledge the tremendous impact of those who support you in sharing your clear, concise and compelling message with the world.

Teresa and I have known each other for over a decade now and are members of the Women’s National Book Assn-San Francisco Chapter and California Writers Club-Peninsula Branch. She amazes me with all that she does for everyone else, encouraging, supporting, and documenting our accomplishments. I have opened myself up to new opportunities and had some incredible experiences because Teresa nudged me to consider taking on a bigger role.

Do you have someone who lifts you up?

How do you lift up others?

Tell someone that they shine today.

You’ll be glad you did.

Photo Credit:  Margie Yee Webb

[Speaker tip] Timing is everything!

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Julia Glyde & Mary E. Knippel at Ladies Speaker Extravaganza and Mixer Event

Time…you can’t stop it, it won’t be rushed and must be respected!

Have you noticed how the subject of time is the focus of so many aspects of our lives?

We are governed by time…from going about your life to accomplishing goals & tasks to the amount necessary to satisfy dreams & hopes.

As a speaker, you have an opportunity to capture the attention of your listeners and touch their lives with inspiration and information. No doubt, you must do this task in a specific period of time.

As the amazing speaker you are, you accept this opportunity to share your message in a timely fashion.

Now, here is the speaker tip:  Make friends with the timekeeper!

As the amazing and passionate speaker you are, you want to be able to give your audience your full attention. You intend to deliver your compelling message with dynamic delivery in the time you have been assigned by the event organizers. You do not want to be cut short before you’ve shared what you came to share. By making friends with the timekeeper, you will know where to look for the cues of exactly how much time you have left. (Also, verify that what your presentation time matches the agenda!) And you will have a friend in the audience helping you to give a fabulous presentation.

I attended one of  Julia Glyde’s Ladies Speaker Extravaganza Mixer event and was happy to help Julia as her timekeeper. I sat in the front row and everyone on stage knew who I was and what my job was. They watched me because I was their friend helping them with their presentation!

Every event has to have an agenda/schedule so that the organizers as well as the attendees know what to expect.

Time does march on despite our best efforts. When it’s your turn to be the speaker, make sure time and the timekeeper are on your side!

[Speaker tip] As time goes by…

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Julia Glyde & Mary E. Knippel at Ladies Speaker Extravaganza and Mixer Event

Time…you can’t stop it, it won’t be rushed and must be respected!

Have you noticed how the subject of time is the focus of so many aspects of our lives?

We are governed by time…from going about your life to accomplishing goals & tasks to the amount necessary to satisfy dreams & hopes.

As a speaker, you have an opportunity to capture the attention of your listeners and touch their lives with inspiration and information. No doubt, you must do this task in a specific period of time.

As the amazing speaker you are, you accept this opportunity to share your message in a timely fashion.

Now, here is the speaker tip:  Make friends with the timekeeper!

As the amazing and passionate speaker you are, you want to be able to give your audience your full attention. You intend to deliver your compelling message with dynamic delivery in the time you have been assigned by the event organizers. You do not want to be cut short before you’ve shared what you came to share. By making friends with the timekeeper, you will know where to look for the cues of exactly how much time you have left. (Also, verify that what your presentation time matches the agenda!) And you will have a friend in the audience helping you to give a fabulous presentation.

I recently attended  Julia Glyde’s Ladies Speaker Extravaganza Mixer event and was happy to help Julia as her timekeeper. I sat in the front row and everyone on stage knew who I was and what my job was. They watched me because I was their friend helping them with their presentation!

Every event has to have an agenda/schedule so that the organizers as well as the attendees know what to expect.

Time does march on despite our best efforts. When it’s your turn to be the speaker, make sure time and the timekeeper are on your side!

[Free Training] Friendly hint on sharing your message

Writing Mentor Mary E Knippel and Writing Coach Teresa LeYung Ryan

We’ve all heard that it’s often not what you know but who you know. Of course, we know how important it is to get out there and spread the word about our message. We are among the lucky ones if we are fortunate enough to have friends who would help us prepare for an event, coach us on content and delivery, and then be our support “team” on the day of the event!

I’m sending a huge THANK YOU and lots of love to my friend, head cheerleader and my Mentor, Writing Coach Teresa LeYung Ryan.

On more than one occasion Teresa has been there when I’ve been the featured speaker or facilitated a workshop. We have co-presented numerous times at the San Francisco Writers Conference. I had the opportunity to present Create Your Success Story to a fabulous group in San Francisco. This was a speaking opportunity as well as a mini-workshop with writing, collage and conversation resulting in lots of creativity.  When folks were asked to introduce themselves, Teresa was the first one to stand up and say she was there because of today’s fabulous speaker!  

Your success is determined by what you know AND who you know. My friendly advice is to be confident in not only what you know…to also recognize that you are not in this alone…to acknowledge the tremendous impact of those who support you in sharing your clear, concise and compelling message with the world.

Teresa and I have known each other for over a decade now and are members of the Women’s National Book Assn-San Francisco Chapter and California Writers Club-Peninsula Branch. She amazes me with all that she does for everyone else, encouraging, supporting, and documenting our accomplishments. I have opened myself up to new opportunities and had some incredible experiences because Teresa nudged me to consider taking on a bigger role.

Do you have someone who lifts you up?

How do you lift up others?

Tell someone that they shine today.

You’ll be glad you did.

Saturday with my friends…

Mary E Knippel,Author and 2 of her many journalsLast Saturday I was thrilled to be able to spend time with my writing friends at the California Writers Club-Peninsula Branch. They invited me to do a presentation on what I lovingly refer to as, “The 15 Minute Fix!”

We had fun talking about flirtatious and creative ways to overcome writers block and subdue the struggle to put words together to convey your message.

Wanna know what we talked about?

  • Something you already have the skills and tools to accomplish.
  • A strategy which can be adapted to fit your writing timeline.
  • A technique to create a foundation anyone can use to produce valuable content for any kind of writing whether it is business or personal.

The 15 Minute Fix is your commitment to set aside time to write at a specific time and for a specific interval in your journal. It could be ten minutes at lunch. It could be a half hour before you go to bed. You get to decide what you want your writing practice to be. You get to decide when, where and for how long. The most important part – besides actually doing the writing part – is that you set a timer and just write. Don’t stop to look up a word, correct a misspelling, or wonder if you are using the proper punctuation. Keep your hand moving and take dictation from your unconscious self. Invite your Inner Writer to take over. Take dictation…so to speak…and download details, events, memories, questions, concerns and imagining to the surface and record them in your journal.

There are no rules of what to put in your journal because it is your sacred place to capture those personal, intimate conversations for your eyes only. Once you have chosen your when and where to write, I would suggest that you make a habit of always beginning your entries with the date, time and description of your surroundings. This will anchor you, help you focus and let your whole body/mind/spirit know it is time to show up to write.

Do you journal?

Want to start?

Check out the Unleash Your Authentic Voice Journaling Program.

Unleash the Writer in YOU!

[speaking] What are your writing blocks?

writers blockWanna know how the secret to overcome writers block?

Come join us at the California Writers Club this Saturday, March 21 at 10 a.m. for my presentation:  

The 15-Minute Fix

Coaxing creativity into your writing life

We’re going to talk about how to get the spark back into your writing. Writer’s Block is a phrase known to strike terror in the hearts of all writers because we can’t call on our creativity to perform as we’d command a dog to sit or roll over. But we can use little tricks to coax and invite creativity into your life.

Jack London tells us “You can’t wait for inspiration. You have to go after it with a club.”  Somewhere in-between Mr. London’s club and the tips, tricks and techniques we’ll be discussing, you’ll find ways to invite Creativity into your life.

I know, I know…how can 15 minutes really make that much difference? It can and you’d be amazed. Fifteen minutes can change your life! View it as a bit of ritual, another exercise to improve your whole body, a way to transform yourself with dynamic results. This is your jump start, or priming the creative pump flowing.

 

 

Use what you know…

http://www.dreamstime.com/-image5403017Recently, I was at an event where the subject of the speaker did not appear to be relevant to the event. They were passionate about the subject, football, and knowledgeable about what was shared, although the environment didn’t seem to lend itself to the topic. The speaker was accustomed to using what they knew on a great variety of topics to engage the audience to encourage them to absorb the value and richness of the entire message.

The speaker used their knowledge of a timely topic to entertain as well as inform the audience.

Now, when I tell you the specifics of this event, some will say, of course, this person has to do whatever they can to engage their audience. There are some who would say, it is mandatory this speaker hone skills of entertainment value in order to not only deliver their message, but to have the audience receive and retain the information.

Want to know where I was and who this speaker could be?

I was in church! Yes, the speaker was an ordained worship leader who started the Christmas Day celebration with talk about football! He knew his audience would be made up of annual and occasional attendees, along with regular churchgoers so he made the subject matter understandable to all as well as relevant to everyone.

I apologize to anyone who may be offended by football being discussed in the same breath as the birth of Baby Jesus, but I applaud that priest! He was present with his congregation and truly met them where they live.

That’s what it means to “Use What You Know!” Talk about what you have in common with your readers.

Talk about what is important to you, and why.

Now that you know the subject of football was discussed during the Christmas celebration I attended, do you remember the subject of the last speaker you heard?

 

photo credit:  Dreamstime.com

VIP information-updated…

I’m excited and grateful to share with you about these amazing opportunities I’ve participated in and what’s coming up…there’s still time for you to join us!

absolutely love sharing the message that your story matters…book me to speak to your group, let’s talk!

 

Heart2Heart-Toastmasters

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Sat., Oct., 11, 6:30-8:30 p.m., St. Paul’s Towers, 100 Bay Place, Oakland, CA

[guest speaker] Tell Your Story from the Heart As a speaker, you are strategically positioned to empower those hearing your story to be inspired, educated, intrigued, and entertained…just by carrying on a time-honored tradition since drawings were etched on cave walls. Essential to any form of communication is being able to connect with your audience both with your head and your heart.  This specialty Toastmasters Club explores communication of all kinds. Guests are welcome.

California Writers Club – Peninsula Branch

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Sat., Oct. 18, 10 a.m.–12 noon,  $10 Members, $13/Non-Members, Belmont Library,        1110 Alameda De Las Pulgas, Belmont, CA

[guest speaker] Fast, Fun & Fundamental – Change your writing…change your life in 15 minutes a day! Learn key ingredients you need to know to write the story of your success. You will learn fun, fast and effective writing tips, techniques and strategies to connect with your most important reader!  SF/Peninsula Writers, is structured so that writers can encourage, champion, and cheer on their fellow writers. Start building your network today! 

Women Wow the World

struggletowowlogoOct. 25 & 26, (Sat. 9 a.m.-9 p.m., Sun., 9 a.m.-4 p.m.) $197 (early bird registration price – $497 value), Mountain View, CA

[Success Panel] Women Who WOW the World – Are you a midlife woman who has big dreams and frustrated because your midlife body is giving you big obstacles in achieving your goals? Creating Your Dream in midlife requires new mindsets, skills and strategies – ones you may not have. Elements of a coaching workshop and more than a self care retreat  with plenty of playful surprises. This 2-day event, organized by Nina Price, Business and Mid-Life Wellness Coach, will help you find solutions to ditch the struggle so you can Wow The World as you never have before!

East Bay Savvy Women –

EastBaySavvyWomenJanuary Expo (TBA) 2015 Multi-speaker event

 [speaker] Unleashing Your Brand –  Build a relationship with your ideal audience by shining your personal light! This presentation will take participants on a journey to identify the direct connection between stepping out of your comfort zone and living a life unleashed. This multi-speaker event attracts a variety of business professionals from all over the area. 

 

GPS – Guidance Prosperity System Movement

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Sat., Sept. 27, 2014

[sponsor & guest speaker] Writing Your Success Story – Your destination is yours to uncover and reveal…to develop your own personalized road map to success.MaryEKnippelGPSDuring this day dedicated to helping you stay focused on your own wants, needs and desires, I had the opportunity to share my story and demonstrate the importance of knowing your story in creating your path to success. Thank you to the fabulous organizers of the GPS Event, D’Ann Hayes, Marketing Specialist and Joan Silva, Money Strategist for graciously inviting me to speak at this event.

Women’s Empowerment Series  – Unmask Your Potential

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Sat., Oct. 4, 9 a.m. – 5 p.m.  Walnut Creek, CA

[guest speaker] Somebody You Need to Know – Five distinctively different women shared messages of hope, encouragement and inspiration – inviting participants to step into the light and shine!

 (l-r) Mary E. Knippel, Rebecca Hall Gruyter, Katrina Sawa, Dr. Simone Ravicz, Sumaya O'Grady

Women’s Empowerment Series – Unmask Your Potential Speakers – (l-r) Mary E. Knippel, Rebecca Hall Gruyter, Katrina Sawa, Dr. Simone Ravicz, Sumaya O’Grady

It was an absolutely amazing day full of heartfelt connections, incredible bonding and delicious sharing.

Thank you, Rebecca Hall Gruyter and all of my fellow speakers, Katrina Sawa, Dr. Simone Ravicz and Sumaya O’Grady.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[Speaker tip] Butterfly messages…

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I’m really working hard on teaching my butterflies the correct choreography for my upcoming stage time (5 -FIVE-consecutive Saturdays in the Bay Area I’ve been privileged to be invited to share on stage).  Talking about how your story…your message. Just being able to open your mouth and speak up is terrifying..then you have to take into account all that is going on with the rest of your body!

Wow! Knees knocking. Eyes tearing up. Stomach in knots. Loud whooshing in your ears. Or, whatever body part gives you an indicator things are amiss.

Well, I’ll let you in on a little secret to my preparation…I’m focusing on YOU! As much as I know what I want to tell you, I’m that much more focused on what I will hear from you…my intention is to show up and listen much more than talk.

A very wise person once told me that we have been designed with two ears and one mouth for a specific purpose…to listen twice as intently as we talk. Whether or not I’ll be seeing you at the events coming up, we encounter each other at other networking events, or I bump into you at the grocery story, mail box, or at church…my philosophy is the same…to listen twice as much as I speak. I am passionate about serving those who want to speak up and need a guide/mentor/muse to help them dive deep into the story ready to be told.

You deserve to live a life unleashed!

You matter…Your story matters…and no one can tell your story from the inside out.