Did you watch the Grammys this year? There was Adele pouring her heart into her music and all the time something was going terribly wrong. Did you notice what she did? She kept right on with her performance singing All I Ask in front of the star-studded audience! Fans witnessed first-hand grace under pressure. Although she’d won 10 Grammy awards in every category in the past, technical difficulties marred her live performance.
Can you relate? Now, before you scoff that the world is not ever going to hear you sing outside of the shower, or masked by a multitude of voices at services, I’d like you to think about the essence of the situation. Has that ever happened to you? All eyes are on you to perform…something you’ve done hundreds of times, or for the first time and you are so nervous.
How do you respond? What do you do when you are challenged by a situation out of your control? When you are confronted with the stress of not measuring up to expectations…whether the expectations are from outside judgement, or your own internal measuring stick?
Some tips you may want to consider:
- Exercise – choose whatever you will be motivated to stay with to help you feel good and maintain your health.
- Take deep breaths. Inhale and exhale slowly.
- Count to 10 slowly. Repeat, and count to 20 if necessary.
- Do your best. Instead of aiming for perfection, which isn’t possible, be proud of however close you get.
- Accept that you cannot control everything. Put your stress in perspective: Is it really as bad as you think?
- Welcome humor. A good laugh goes a long way.
- Maintain a positive attitude. Make an effort to replace negative thoughts with positive ones.
One of my favorite tips is to get out in nature for a walk, to sit and sip tea and write in my journal, or escape into an old movie. Adele had a good cry, dismissed the incident with a comment that stuff happens, and treated herself to a favorite food.
Adele doesn’t let that one incident stop her from performing again. Neither will you because you are a Superstar!